Bad days. We all have them. The alarm didn’t go off, the kids are playing up and the cat’s thrown up in the kitchen. The day has only just started and already we want to chalk it up as a bad day. Or we might be having a great day and feeling really positive and motivated. Then out of the blue the car breaks down or we’re leave our wallet at home and bam! it’s instantly turned into a bad day.
I’ve had a couple of those days recently. This week both my dishwasher and fridge have stopped working. Yesterday I was looking after my nieces and all the kids were fighting, we had a headlice scare (thankfully we’re all nit-free!), my daughter banged her head and had a bump the size of an egg and to top it off my youngest niece fell out of our tree and broke her elbow! What a truly horrendous day. I know they’re not massive problems compared to what a lot of people are going through, but we’re all affected in different ways.
No matter how in touch and in control of our emotions we are, everyday obstacles and challenges can easily knock us for six. It would undoubtedly be easier to write the day off as a bad one and just try again tomorrow and hope for better results. However, now when I have a bad day, I have enough tools at my disposal to help me out of a downward spiral. So instead of giving up on the rest of the day, why not stop negativity in its tracks with this amazingly powerful mantra.
Stop, take a deep breath and say:
“SOFTEN [your name]”
Soften my body – my shoulders, my neck, my clenched jaw, my belly muscles
Soften my words – harsh words said in the heat of the moment, that I don’t really mean
Soften my heart – listen to my heart and refill it with love and kindness
Soften my thoughts – thoughts of fear, of not being good enough, of not being in control
Soften my judgement – of myself and of others
Soften is such a comforting, heart-warming word. As I say it I visualise being wrapped in a big, warm, soft blanket of love that dissolves away what I was mad/stressed/upset about.
Softening helps me to let go of stress and negativity and replace it with love and compassion. It reminds me that nothing is permanent. Whatever has happened to make me feel like I’m having a bad day, can disappear as easily as it arrived. I sometimes need to repeat this powerful mantra several times a day… or more if it’s a particularly stressful day. It brings me back to the present moment and can turn my bad day into a great one.
How do you turn around a bad day?