how to find your life purpose

There’s a belief that only a few people know their life purpose right from the start, while the rest of us journey through life seeking to discover it. I don’t think that’s necessarily true. I really believe every single one of us has a ‘why‘. Why we’re here and how we can make a difference. But I don’t believe we have to spend our whole lives searching for our life purpose. The answer is already inside each one of us. By asking the right questions, the answer might be closer than we think.

How I found my life purpose…

Some people never seek their life purpose. Many of us are so used to going through the motions of life that we don’t even realise we have a calling. I didn’t until about a year ago. As a child I didn’t know what I wanted to be when I grew up. I wasn’t one of those kids who knew for certain what I wanted to be. I think I changed my mind every week. I still didn’t really know what I wanted to do when I was at college doing A-levels. I felt like I was surrounded by friends who were all so sure what they wanted to do. All I knew was that I wanted to go to university and study something business oriented.

Looking back I can see that I was heavily influenced by my parents. They were (and still are) the most amazing supportive parents, but I knew they wanted me to do something ‘corporate’ like law or management. I thought that’s what I wanted too and I didn’t want to disappoint them (I was always such a people pleaser!) So I ended up going to uni and studying marketing.

So I got my marketing degree and got a job in marketing but a year later I was made redundant. After that I kind of fell into the customer services area where I’ve stayed in various roles ever since.

I never felt it was my calling though. I never felt lit up by my job. I was happy enough but I just thought it was something to pay the bills. I thought that’s what people did.

However when I started my journey of self discovery, I soon realised that I did have a purpose. There was something out there that was meant for me. But what? I knew I was put on this earth for a certain reason but what the hell was it?! I wanted to know my ‘why’. What lights me up?

how to find your life purpose

I spent a good part of a year trying to work out what my life purpose was. For a long time I felt lost and frustrated. I spent a lot of time soul searching. Digging deep. Asking myself questions I’d never asked before. My journal helped me a lot. I wrote in it every day. I meditated every day. I kept searching.

My life purpose wasn’t something that hit me with a bang. I slowly began to realise I wanted to help people. Help them to find happiness and peace. Help them to feel whole. To share everything I’ve learned to help others live the best life they possibly can.

So here I am. With my own self development website. Writing about all the things I’ve learned (and am still learning) about how to live a happier, more peaceful, more meaningful life. I’m also training to be a life coach with the goal of making it my career.

Questions to help you find your purpose

Set aside a couple of hours when you won’t be disturbed. Get yourself cosy with a hot drink or even a glass of wine. Journal or notepad and pen by your side. You might want to meditate before you go through the questions, it will help you relax and open your mind to the answers inside.

The following prompts will help you discover your life purpose by evoking thoughts and images which are profoundly personal messages from your unconscious.

After you read each question, close your eyes and listen inwardly for an answer. Then, open your eyes and write down the first thought, symbol or picture that comes to mind. Just let your answers flow. Don’t think too much about what you’re writing, just get everything out of your head and onto the paper. Go with your gut instinct, your first thought. Stay open and curious. The words and images that result may surprise you.

1 /  What am I grateful for? Why am I grateful for those things?

2 / What am I really good at? What talent do I have?

3 / What makes me cry?

4 / What brings me joy? What makes me happiest?

5 / What message does my future self have for me?

6 / What do I really want in life?

7 / What makes me forget to eat and lose track of time?

8 / What would my perfect day look like? List everything in the perfect day from waking up to going to sleep.

9 / What are my family most proud of me for?

10 / What’s not working in my life?

11 / What makes me come alive? What lights me up?

12 / Who do I look up to? Who inspires me? Who are my mentors?

13 / What have I done in my life that hasn’t worked? What lesson did I learn from it?

14 / What did I love to do as a child? What did I love to do as a teenager?

15 / What do people thank me for? What have I been told I’m good at?

16 / Who’s my favorite person? How does that person make me feel?

17 / What will my legacy be? What do I want to be remembered for?

18 / How would I like to feel every day?

19 / What would I do if I knew you couldn’t fail?

20 / What am I curious about? If I had half an hour on the internet, what would I look for?

21 / What new skill would I love to learn if money/time/energy were no object?

22 / Out of all my current or past work roles, what would I happily do for free?

23 / If I could do anything in the world without worrying about time, money, or energy restrictions, what would I do?

These questions really helped me to look inside myself. I’m not saying you’ll go through the questions and boom! you’ll have your life purpose. The questions are there to guide you to look deeper inside yourself and dig down into your soul where your purpose lies. They will help you uncover some of the answers that may help you discover your purpose.

It’s taken me until the age of 40 to discover my life purpose and I’ll spend the next 40 years dedicated to fulfilling it and helping as many people as I can.

Are you searching for your life purpose? If you’ve found it what’s your life purpose?




  1. Jenny
    7th April 2016 / 11:04 am

    Hi Debra I hope you don’t mind me asking this question, where you are studying to become a life coach. I’ve been looking at courses online myself and there are so many on offer but often they are very expensive.

    • Debra
      9th April 2016 / 9:23 am

      Hi Jenny, I don’t mind you asking at all! I’ve sent you an email with all the details of the course x

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